Girlfriend of Filipino student who died by suicide charged with involuntary manslaughter

BOSTON — Alexander Urtula was only 22-years-old when he died after jumping off a parking garage on May 20th.

He was just a few hours away from getting his diploma from Boston College.

His family, who was in town from New Jersey, never saw him graduate.

Urtula’s suicide, the Suffolk County District Attorney said, was not entirely his fault.

“Ms. You was physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward Mr. Urutula during their 18-month long relationship,” says District Attorney Rachael Rollins.

Urutula’s girlfriend, Inyoung You, has been indicted for involuntary manslaughter. She is being charged in connection with Urutula’s suicide.

“The indictment alleges Ms. You’s behavior was wanting and reckless and resulted in overwhelming Mr. Urutula’s will to live, and that she created life-threatening conditions for him that she had a legal duty to alleviate which we allege she failed to do.”
Fil-Am psychologist Dr. Leilani Salvo Crane said, unfortunately, seeking mental health help is still stigmatized in American society — but even more so in the Filipino community.
“I know it’s hard, like we don’t talk. we don’t talk about sex, we don’t talk about drugs. We don’t talk right? But to try to do that you have to remember if you’re children are in the U.S., they’re American as much as they’re Filipino. And so we have to take that  into account; be very mindful of that and the stressors…and I think it’s very shameful for men especially to be bullied in any way, especially by a woman.”
The abuse, the district attorney said, was witnessed by Urtula’s and You’s family and classmates. The two exchanged over 75,000 text messages just in the last two months before Urtula’s death — more than 47,000 of those were from You.
“She was aware of his spiraling depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse yet she persisted, continuing to encourage him to take his own life.”

You, officials said, went back to South Korea after Urtula’s death. The district attorney is asking her to come back to the U.S. voluntarily. And if she doesn’t, they plan to extradite her.

In Massachusetts, a bill is pending before state legislators which would make the encouragement or assistance of suicide punishable for up to five years in prison.

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